The Spirit Of Resentment-part 2
Last night while waiting on sleep to arrive, I pondered what more can be said about the spirit of resentment. I really felt like I did not go deep enough with last night’s piece. So I will expound a bit more on this spirit. I do apologize for holding back the actions needed to break the cycle that the spirit of resentment often creates for the host. A similar reliving of the same event, sort of like “Groundhog Day” or Deja vu”.
I enjoy sharing a bit of myself or my experiences in the pieces that I share with you and this is no different. I have a friend, He is very close to me. I would see him almost everyday. Then one day, he began acting differently. Someone had attempted to cheat him out of some money. He continued to go on and on about it. Weeks passed and he was still talking about the incident as if it had just happened. This however is just the beginning, later he changes his living arrangements. He continues to say “He just wants to be happy”. However, he has now become some sort of angry bitter person. Everything that happens is seemingly done on purpose to hurt him or to disrespect him. There are others that live in the place where he moved to and the others share the duties. No one has as much time in the house as he has since he is self employed. However he feels like it is disrespectful for him to do more of the small chores than the others even though they work outside of the home. He continues to yell and have loud angry out burst often. These actions are robbing him of the “Happiness” he longs for and causing the others to feel very uncomfortable in their living quarters. I attempt to offer advise but nothing seems to help. I am at a lost until the other morning when God spoke the word “Resentment”. My research began and I was amazed at how similar the actions and statements were to my friend. Have you discovered a similarity to yourself, your family or your friends? This spirit does seem to be drawn to those who are already battling an addiction but there is no evidence that it only attaches itself to those who are addicts or who are recovering.
Here is a brief exert from a therapist named Mark Sichel. His thoughts on this spirit are quite interesting. I hope you enjoy the read.
Living With Resentment Is Like Taking Poison and Hoping the Other Guy Will Get Sick
Resentment refers to the mental process of repetitively replaying a feeling, and the events leading up to it, that goad or anger us. We don’t replay a cool litany of “facts” in resentment; we re-experience and relive them in ways that affect us emotionally, physiologically and spiritually in very destructive ways. The inability to overcome resentment probably constitutes the single most devastating impediment to repairing a disintegrating intimate connection, family rift, or severed friendship.
Although resentments may be provoked by recent, specific angry conflicts between two people, they usually encapsulate an enmity that goes much further back. Your parent, child, sibling or partner may accuse you of a recent snub or slight but the venom is more than likely fueled by years of other imagined or real episodes of disrespect or disregard. For example, your spouse may become enraged by a broken promise or breach of attentiveness, but if they can’t let go of it, it’s probably ignited by a long history of neglect, exasperation, and frustration. Your parent or sibling may accuse you of forgetting an important event like their birthday, but again, the most recent accusation is just the trigger for provoking these feelings. The strong reaction of resentment almost never appears to be warranted by what sets it off. It’s always the product of a long history of backed-up unhappiness. What causes the unhappiness that underlies resentment?