Hello Folks,

I decided that since I had to miss my workout today that I would write a bit.  I was wondering what we could discuss. Hmmm…I was thinking about how we handle it when something we were planning doesn’t happen the way we planned. Examples of this are listed below:


This is one of the most difficult things that we plan and if it does not happen as we have planned.. it is devastating.  Many women who experience this type of loss never forget.  The fear of loosing another baby is unbearable.  Let us pray for those of us who have had to live with this type of loss.  Father, thank you healing our broken hearts and for adding life to our lives again.  Thank you Lord that though there was mourning you will turn it into dancing.. Amen..


When one dies, we have been praying and praying and praying. They get better and then the worst thing ever happens. What? They die.  They leave us after we have prayed and just know that they will not.  I can not say much on this topic because as a child, my grannie died.  I was 10 years old and yes..I prayed and was sure that she would live even though she told me she would not.  She was ready to meet the Lord.  I wanted her to stay with me and well, she left.  She died and I was crushed.  My grannie who I called ‘Gran Mo’ was gone to be with the Lord.  She taught me how to bake biscuits and how to cook cakes.  How to shell peas and snap beans. She was my hero and my champion..and she was sick and did not want to live any longer. She left and I was left in the world without her..Oh my God, the memory of it all …it seems like yesterday.  I will stop discussing this topic now….



You have been dating for awhile, and everyone says you two look great together.  You start to believe it..then he pops the question.  You start planning the wedding and buying stuff.  You announce it to your friends and then the worst thing happens..he breaks the engagements off. Leaves you..or does something that you can’t forgive..or well you think you can’t.  

We will continue with other things that cause us to think that God is wrong or that he must made a mistake..However, please remember that no matter how painful the loss is..we can heal and rise again..

Coyfee signing off for now..






Well guys how are you? I am doing 100% better.  I know many of you have noticed that I have been off the scene for a bit.  So much has happened, but as you know my life is a looking glass..so I will just fill you in.

Some of you may have read the blog post about possible marriage..well that was a thing of the past. An all out lie..if I will. The person who I thought I was marrying was a thief, a liar and not at all who I thought he was. I will share in greater detail later, after the accounts have been settled. 

Soooo, I have taken the time to bask in self pity and now I am back on it again. Yes after years of battling with the idea of marriage..I finally decide to fall into the abyss of eternal connection and it was with the wrong person.  

However, life has a way of birthing something really good out of the ashes of pain and deceit.  He has been a delightful friend and maybe he will become more..Did I move to fast..I honestly don’t think so.  Life awaits for no man..no woman ..no child..

Many times we can not see the tree for the forest.  We will talk about that later.. smile

I have moved also.  A new apartment, a new me..

I have changed my hair color..tell me what you think?Image

My weight loss is coming alone quite well..I weighed in at 259 lbs. I am happy to report that I now weigh 238 lbs.. YEAH!!! Coyfee is getting slim..

So I just wanted to take a minute before the gym to say that I have missed you and can’t wait to get back on track. 

I would love to personalize the blog..Please send me your topics of interest, let’s make 2013  our best year yet…

Coyfee is signing out!!!





Hello Folks,

I thought it would be fun to track my weight loss success on line.  So I have decided to keep an active log of activities.  Success and failures on line just for you all.  I think this is a good motivational tool.  So here is where I am at this moment. Sometimes people can be really mean ..the above clip is your motivation..mine motivation is I will live a long happy healthy wealthy life..while running up a flight of stairs..my first goal..

Right Now

I work out 45 minutes every M, T, W, and Fri, and Sun.  I am using a fat burners and also a protein shakes as a supplement.

I have lost 11 lbs at this point. I started the last week in February 2012.

Weight: 248 lbs

Where I begin

I was having great difficulty walking up a modest amount of stairs and I notice that weight was seeming to just pile up on me.  I had a very weak appetite and no energy. I was unable to wear my beloved pumps (high heeled shoes)

Weight at beginning was 259 lbs

I am 5’0″ tall… not good odds.  I am a bit curvy but much to heavy for my frame.

Reason for Change

I love God but with God comes wisdom.  The relationship that I am in has been a very emotional relationship. My guy often confesses his love for me just the way I am.  

So if you thought he was the reason for the change..hmmm—He is not.  The wisdom that God has given me has caused me to see that why I am anointed and see and understands the mysteries of the Gospel..I am extremely over weight.

I have decided to make a change.  So I did some research and joined a gym.  I asked a lot of questions and go faithfully almost every day.  My guy came with me once but has not come back.   That will not deter me.  I will work out until it becomes a good habit in my life. I have a trainer so that I can maximize the weight loss.  I have nutritional assistance also and this will make this life change a bit easier.

I do not desire to become one that competes in this arena but I do desire to become healthy.  A testimony for what diligence will do!

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Then war broke out in heaven; Michael and his angels went forth to battle with the dragon, and the dragon and his angels fought.

But they were defeated, and there was no room found for them in heaven any longer.

And the huge dragon was cast down and out—that age-old serpent, who is called the Devil and Satan, he who is the seducer (deceiver) of all humanity the world over; he was forced out and down to the earth, and his angels were flung out along with him.

10 Then I heard a strong (loud) voice in heaven, saying, Now it has come—the salvation and the power and the kingdom (the dominion, the reign) of our God, and the power (the sovereignty, the authority) of His Christ (the Messiah); for the accuser of our brethren, he who keeps bringing before our God charges against them day and night, has been cast out!

Have you ever wondered when the Spirit of Division began? It all began in Heaven with the battle that Satan and Michael began to fight. The word says that Michael threw Satan and Satan’s angels out of Heaven.  Satan was desiring the praise that he was not worthy of! The praise belonged to GOD! He wanted to be the one that was worshiped   He convinced a third of the angels to follow him and to Abandon GOD!! See he convinced them by causing them to question what they heard. How they interpreted what was said to them by God!.  

Friends this happens every day. Every day the enemy confuses people and creates separation.  What happens next?  Division! When someone hurts you or makes you believe that you have been lied too..you immediately want to leave that person’s presence. IF the pain is great enough un forgiveness comes and brings bitterness with her.  Read below at what Adam says about his wife..Lord the woman you gave me…a few verses previously he was decree this is “flesh of flesh ..bones of my bones”.. See what happened when Satan entered the scene as the spirit of Division..

Genesis 3

Amplified Bible (AMP)

3 Now the serpent was more subtle and crafty than any living creature of the field which the Lord God had made. And he [Satan] said to the woman, Can it really be that God has said, You shall not eat from every tree of the garden?

And the woman said to the serpent, We may eat the fruit from the trees of the garden,

Except the fruit from the tree which is in the middle of the garden. God has said, You shall not eat of it, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.

But the serpent said to the woman, You shall not surely die,

For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing the difference between good and evil and blessing and calamity.

And when the woman saw that the tree was good (suitable, pleasant) for food and that it was delightful to look at, and a tree to be desired in order to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate; and she gave some also to her husband, and he ate.

Then the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves apronlike girdles.

And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.

But the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, Where are you?

10 He said, I heard the sound of You [walking] in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.

11 And He said, Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?

12 And the man said, The woman whom You gave to be with me—she gave me [fruit] from the tree, and I ate.

13 And the Lord God said to the woman, What is this you have done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled (cheated, outwitted, and deceived) me, and I ate.

14 And the Lord God said to the serpent, Because you have done this, you are cursed above all [domestic] animals and above every [wild] living thing of the field; upon your belly you shall go, and you shall eat dust [and what it contains] all the days of your life.

15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her [a]Offspring; He will bruise andtread your head underfoot, and you will lie in wait and bruise His heel.

16 To the woman He said, I will greatly multiply your grief andyour suffering in pregnancy and the pangs of childbearing; with spasms of distress you will bring forth children. Yet your desire and craving will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.

17 And to Adam He said, Because you have listened and given heed to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, saying, You shall not eat of it, the ground is under a curse because of you; in sorrow and toil shall you eat [of the fruits] of it all the days of your life.

The spirit of Division (Separation) begins to show his intentions back in the beginning read the accounts from Genesis.  I want you ponder these accounts and see that if the very angels were deceived then what of us? We must be careful of how and what we say.  Many are easily offended and allow that offense to push them away from the church (Body of Christ).

If you have wounded, or offended anyone ..please apologize..Do not allow the enemy to use you to offend any one.. IF someone has hurt you, go to them and let them know. They maybe unaware of the pain they have caused.  We must remember that the spirit of Unity is what reveals that we are of Christ..not separation…

Coyfee is out!! Love YA




Well guys it’s been a while since we discussed the SPIRIT OF DIVISION.  I hope everyone remembers that this is the Spirit that works behind the scene to cause separation.  This spirit is dreadful and it is one the most mis-understood spirits ever.  This spirit is responsible for causing divorces, sibling rivalry, church splits, break ups, and business failures.

One of ways the spirit deceives is with the lack of communication.  I discover this ploy within my own family. I would say one thing and Mr. Big would hear something completely different. Also vice verse, he would say something and I would hear something completely different.  We have committed to use a concept called mirroring.  When he tells me something I will repeat it to him to make sure I understand what he actually meant.  I will let you know how this works for us.

 Back to the lesson…

Now that we have reviewed a bit, tell me have you done your homework? Did you review the list of symptoms? I have found that the spirit of division seems to always work.  The spirit likes to make itself at home with spirits of religion, pride, idolatry, selfishness, unforgiveness and some others that we will discuss later in the blog series.

I want to make you aware that the way to overcome is three fold.  Body (actions), Mind(thoughts) and Soul (spiritual).  


The body focuses on actions such as if someone has physically hurt you.  Maybe touched you in a certain way and this creates a split or divide with others like.  If a woman was abused,  she may not be able to be joined in a healthy relationship with another person.  Now, she is left alone or thinks she prefers to be left alone.  We are weaker when we are alone BECAUSE  the BODY OF CHRIST is a group of believers not just one.


It has been said that the MIND is a terrible thing to waste..not sure who said it but I remember it from a commercial.  I want to focus on the way the enemy fills our minds with negative thoughts about everyone and everything.  When the spirit of division is allowed to run free; it cause great havoc.  The person is always thinking that someone is against them.  Everything is against them.  What ever wrong is done is thought to be done on purpose.  This will soon push the person to a place solitude though the person desperately needs to be in the fellowship of other believers.


This one is bit tricky because for the novice, they will find demons in everyone.  This causes them to be afraid or uneasy around everyone.  Also, they will make others uneasy as they can not see where they are wrong.  They are unable to discern their own behavior and how that behavior is the absolute opposite of GOD.  They do not read the word but focus solely on what they are hearing.  Now the word is clear that we are to test the spirit to see if it is of GOD.  They however will not make any attempt to test the spirit because they have allowed pride to set in and  they of course can not be corrected.


Friends, my sole solution is PRAYER…I know someone is thinking that all I talk about is PRAYER..well, you are right.  PRAYER, is our first line of defensive and study of the word will strength your discernment.  

The prayer:

Lord, thank you that I am being filled with Your Spirit.  I invite the Holy Spirit into me to wash and cleanse me MIND, BODY and SOUL.  Thank you Lord, that I have the mind of CHRIST.  Thank you that I am a part of the Body of CHRIST.  Thank you Lord, you have restored my SOUL.


COYFEE is out… 


COYFEE’S NOMINATIONS FOR ‘Very Inspiring Blogger Award’


Salutations to my dear sister,Yahobahne of
Yahobahne “Designs”http://his4glorydotcom.wordpress.com/. Thank you for nominating me and bringing such glee to my page.

There are some rules for this award – which remind me that we are paying it forward in our acknowledgement of those who inspire us.  Here are the rules:

1. Display the award logo on your blog.

2. Link back to the person who nominated you.

3. State 7 things about yourself.

4. Nominate 15 bloggers for this award.

5. Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back.

Coyfee working really hard====>

1. I am engaged and getting hitched at the end of the year

2. I have five children and a grand daughter

3. I work for child support in the Sun Shine State-Florida.

4. I am about to join a gym…YEAH

5. I love cartoons

6. I looovvve Sci-fi Movies

7. The Matrix is my favorite movie of all time…


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  • Starting arguments.
  • Spreading gossip.
  • Creating cliques.
  • Creating fear.
  • Carrying grudges.
  • Backstabbing.
  • Deliberately undermining those in authority.
  • Pitting one person off against another.
  • Lying.
  • Setting up rules in order to create social barriers.
  • Being a racist or sexist or elitist.
  • Giving orders and demanding obedience.
  • Using principles (or even ‘righteous’ anger) as an excuse to cut off contact.
  • Personalizing a political dispute.
  • Raising the stakes in disputes.
  • Having an ‘I win, you lose’ attitude.
  • Acting without concern about how it affects others.

I was doing research for signs of division in your home or group.  The above list is what I found regarding the symptoms of the spirit of division.  If you, after reviewing the list, have any of the above problems tune in next time for prayers for deliverance from the spirit of division.

The spirit of division will separate families, church groups, work teams, etc.  We must be mindful and careful regarding this spirit.

Coyfee is out

Tune in next time for more on the spirit of division.






MARK 3.24

24 For if civil war breaks out in a kingdom, nothing can make that kingdom last; 25 and if a family splits into parties, that family cannot continue26 So if Satan has risen in arms and has made war upon himself, stand he cannot, but meets his end. 27 Nay, no one can go into a strong man’s house and carry off his property, unless he first binds the strong man, and then he will plunder his house.

28 In solemn truth I tell you that all their sins may be pardoned to the sons of men, and all their blasphemies, however they may have blasphemed; 29 but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit, he remains for ever unabsolved: he is guilty of a sin of the Ages.” 30 This was because they said, “He is possessed by a foul spirit.”

Hey guys, 

We are working on building a family that represents God‘s grace and love. What we have found is that the enemy(spirit of division) is working constantly to keep our family divided and arguing at each other.

I began praying since the wisdom of God began to tug on me about a house divided. I understand that there are demons being released to challenge our dedication to God’s plan for our lives. My husband to be(lol) is anointing to preach the Gospel. Shhhsh! Don’t tell anyone he is still being groomed and often is unsure what God is doing. It is an exacting thing to watch. He is a rough around the edges but God has a tool that sharpens iron. ME!! I know guys..often time God will give me a message to share with him. 

We share the word of God with each other.. It’s not always an easy task but we are learning to share and respect the Spirit of God. I have learned to pray about whatever God is saying and allow God to deal with him. This keeps the arguments to a medium.

We have decided to focus on God and pray often for revelation, grace, and mercy when dealing with each other directly. We are also praying for an couple that we can be accountable with.  We are praying for a couple that has all the good stuff, second or more marriage, step children, and even adult children. Pray with us.. We declare that we will be ministers used by God for His sakes!!

So I am sharing this to show how the spirit of divination, works in our family. Have you noticed this spirit working in your family? If so, how have you been addressing this spirit? Here is another scripture reference that will show how division also affects the church. 

Jude 1:19

It is these who are [agitators] setting up distinctions and causing divisions—merely sensual [creatures, carnal, worldly-minded people], devoid of the [Holy] Spirit and destitute of any higher spiritual life.

Jude 1:18-20 

Tune in later for the steps of overcoming ‘Division’

Coyfee out!!






I was greatly joyed to discover that the first “Kat Woman’, Eartha Kitt is being honored through imitation, sort of. Our amazing Eartha Kitt, is being honored by a comic book. I would love for you all to buy one for your children. Show the Kitt family that we love Eartha by buying this work of art.  I have included the original article.  Enjoy!!

Eartha Kitt Becomes Superhero in Comic Book Series


by Krishana Davis
Special to the AFRO

AFRO Black History Archives

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 Almost half a century after playing the role of the black jumpsuit wearing, cat-like Bat-Villain, Kitt’s acting legacy has spawned her re-birth in the superhero fiction genre. This time, as herself, a surfing loving, superhero with feral-like agility. 

How can Batgirl be the best anything when Catwoman is around,” questioned Eartha Kitt, as the villainous Catwoman in the 1960s “Batman” television series.

Earlier this month, Bluewater Productions released the first installment of its latest comic book series, Eartha Kitt: Femme Fatale. Written by New York Times best-selling author Marc Shapiro, the tale, designed to appeal to all generations, begins with Kitt riding the “purrrrfect” wave, when she meets a huge, green, scaly monster.

“I’ve always been an Eartha Kitt fan, and not just for Catwoman,” said Bluewater Productions publisher Darren G. Davis. “I contacted her daughter [Kitt Shapiro] and asked if we could do something with her and really embody who she was instead of just making a funny comic book.” 

Kitt’s career, spanning 65 years until her death in 2003, includes world-renowned musical stylings such as “c’est si bon,” in her distinct, raspy voice, role as Helen of Troy in Dr. Faustus, and a slew of cabaret, Broadway musical, television and film roles.

The quarterly comic book is a part of Bluewater Productions efforts to re-new the traditional superhero genre. In the comic book Kitt’s character is intertwined with actor Adam West and Julie Newmar, who were principals in the “Batman” television series in the 1970’s, to create a new-age “superhero team.” Kitt replaced Newmar as Catwoman

To create the character, the team studied the biography of Eartha Kitt, with the help of her daughter, to create a true-to-form depiction of Kitt. 

“[Kitt Shapiro] wanted her mother’s voice really put into it. [Eartha Kitt] really embodies female empowerment,” said Davis. “We wanted to make it sit properly for the fans. 

“We have so much respect for the people that we work with and we want to ensure that comes through in all of the comic books.” 

The Kitt comic book is available for digital download through iTunes and Amazon. Print versions of the comic can be ordered through comicfleamarket.com




I wonder did anyone else know when and how black history began.  I was searching for the next person to feature in my Black History Month peice and discover the below piece.  I was shocked because in all of my many years of education and also educating other..we were never taught about Dr. Woodson.   I discovered the origin of the Black History  by accident.  Is that sad? Our country really needs to focus on teaching the young about the many attributes of the Black American. Someone should do something about. Yes, I will.

Let’s start here…

Read below and discover the origin of BLACK HISTORY.


by Elissa Haney
Dr. Carter G. Woodson

Americans have recognized black history annually since 1926, first as “Negro History Week” and later as “Black History Month.” What you might not know is that black history had barely begun to be studied-or even documented-when the tradition originated. Although blacks have been in America at least as far back as colonial times, it was not until the 20th century that they gained a respectable presence in the history books.

Blacks Absent from History Books

We owe the celebration of Black History Month, and more importantly, the study of black history, to Dr. Carter G. Woodson. Born to parents who were former slaves, he spent his childhood working in the Kentucky coal mines and enrolled in high school at age twenty. He graduated within two years and later went on to earn a Ph.D. from Harvard. The scholar was disturbed to find in his studies that history books largely ignored the black American population-and when blacks did figure into the picture, it was generally in ways that reflected the inferior social position they were assigned at the time.

Established Journal of Negro History

Woodson, always one to act on his ambitions, decided to take on the challenge of writing black Americans into the nation’s history. He established the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History (now called the Association for the Study of Afro-American Life and History) in 1915, and a year later founded the widely respected Journal of Negro History. In 1926, he launched Negro History Week as an initiative to bring national attention to the contributions of black people throughout American history.

Woodson chose the second week of February for Negro History Week because it marks the birthdays of two men who greatly influenced the black American population, Frederick Douglass and Abraham Lincoln. However, February has much more than Douglass and Lincoln to show for its significance in black American history. For example: